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  • What Did You Accomplish In Life Today?

    Welp! It's official im going to own my own restaurant November 1st!
  • What Did You Accomplish In Life Today?

    Last meeting tomorrow. Then I'll be all set to make an offer on the building! Hopefully the offer will be sent out Wednesday morning!
  • What Did You Accomplish In Life Today?

    The GF and I got engaged!
  • Random Stuff About Nothing

    So ive been cleaning up/packing my apartment. Im moving into my house at the end of the week.

    So last night i took some stuff down to the dumpster.

    The dumpster is usually quite full, i noticed on top a box on its side..
    Full of retro consoles in mint condition (looks like they were in that box for years)

    So i grabbed it lol.

    A nes

    All the hookups, controllers and there were games...

    The mrs and i tested them all out.
    And they work!! Mmy favourite is probably the gameboy player on the Gamecube..those things are hard to find lol.
  • What Did You Accomplish In Life Today?

    Yesterday the wife, and i welcomed our first child into the world!

    Born at 23:22 August 5th weighing a wopping 6lb, 15oz
    We named her Iris

  • What Did You Accomplish In Life Today?

    Just finished my second round of interviewing for a new job.

    I still have the restaurant, but i am outsourcing my position so the place will run whilst im not there.

    I havent had any time for my family which is rough. Im working 7am till 11pm most days.

    This new emoloyer will let me to work from home, (remote) and its 9-5. Monday to Friday, so i can hopefully gwt a work life balance back for the fam jam..
    Ill find out in a few days!
  • The Negative Stigma Of Mental Health

    Here's a few things about Anxiety.

    Many people don't really understand Anxiety, It's often swept under the rug, but it is a debilitating mental illness, and many people don't know that Anxiety, and Depression go in hand to hand together.

    It makes your brain go from 0-60 in less than a second. From personal experience it makes me over analyze with "what if this happens" or just simply "what if's" Constantly distracted overthinking and over analyzing every small thing. Making you feel detached and almost not mentally in the present. It's mentally, and physically exhausting. It feels like your always at the gym i can feel my heart beat out of my chest sometimes that feeling lasts all day, some days it's just for a few moments, but the unknown is there if i'll have an attack, and that is not a experience anyone should go through. The first time i had an attack i thought i was dying.

    Tunnel Vision
    Heart rate shoots way up
    on the verge of passing out
    and not to mention my breathing gets inconsistent

    I've learnt the way to fight the 'attack' is to bunker down get as low as possible, and curl up into a ball almost until it passes.
    I still don't know what causes my attacks, but one thing about anxiety is very true

    "The Fear Of Anxiety Can Also Cause It"

    "1. They’ll talk about their anxiety when they feel ready.

    In the thick of an anxiety attack, nothing will make sense, so it’s best not to ask what’s going on or if they’re OK. No, they don’t feel OK. And yes, it feels like the world is falling apart at the seams.

    Ask if they want to go somewhere else – maybe somewhere quieter or more private. Don’t panic or do anything that might give them the idea that they need looking after. Go for a walk with them, or just be there. Soon it will pass and when it does, they’ll be able to talk to you about what has happened, but wait for that. Then just listen and be there.

    2. They’re pretty great to have around. You’ll want them as part of your tribe.

    Because of their need to stay safe and to prepare against the next time anxiety rears its head, people who struggle with anxiety will generally have a plan – and they will have worked hard to make sure it works for everyone involved, not just for themselves. They’ll make sure everything has been organized to keep everyone safe, happy, on time and out of trouble. Notice the good things they do – there are plenty. Let them know you love them because of who they are, including who they are with anxiety, not despite it.

    3. Remember: anxiety is a normal physical response to a brain being a little overprotective.

    There’s a primitive part of all of our brains that’s geared to sense threat. For some people, it fires up a lot sooner and with a lot less reason than it does in others. When it does, it surges the body with cortisol (the stress hormone) and adrenaline to get the body ready to run for its life or fight for it. This is the fight or flight response and it’s in everyone. The “go” button is a bit more sensitive for people with anxiety.

    4. There’s a lot to know, so if you try to understand everything you can … well, that makes you kind of awesome.

    It makes a difference to be able to talk about anxiety without having to explain it. On the days they don’t feel like they have it in them to talk about it, it means a lot that you just “get it.” If you’ve tried to understand everything you can about what it means to have anxiety, then that’s enough. Anxiety is hard to make sense of – people with anxiety will be the first to tell you that – but it will mean everything that you’ve tried.

    5. Make sure there’s room to say “no.” And don’t take it personally.

    People with anxiety are super aware of everything going on – smells, sounds, people, possibilities. It’s exhausting when your attention is drawn to so many things. Don’t take “no” personally. Just because they might not want to be doing what you’re doing, that doesn’t mean they don’t want to be with you. Keep offering – don’t assume everything you offer will be met with “no” – but be understanding and “no big deal” if you aren’t taken up on your offer. They are saying no to a potential anxiety attack. Not to you.

    6. Loads of lovin’ never hurt anyone, so be compassionate and there for them.

    Talk up the things you love about them. There will be times that people with anxiety will feel like they are their anxiety and that they are a source of difficulty. (Who hasn’t felt like they’re making things harder than they need to be?) Specifically, I’m talking about when plans have to be changed, when you need to book a few rows back from the front row, turn the radio down, take the long way. If this is the worst you have to deal with in a friend, sign me up.

    7. Anxiety has nothing to do with courage or character. Nothing at all.

    Courage is feeling the edge of yourself and moving beyond it. We all have our limits, but people with anxiety are just more aware of theirs. Despite this, they are constantly facing up to the things that push against their edges. That’s courage, and people with anxiety have it in truckloads. They’re strong, intelligent and sensitive – they’ll be as sensitive to you and what you need as they are to their environment. That makes them pretty awesome to be with. They can be funny, kind, brave and spirited. Really, they’re no different than anyone else. As with everyone, the thing that trips them up sometimes (their anxiety) is also the thing that lifts them above the crowd.

    8. Anxiety can change shape. It doesn’t always look the same way.

    Anxiety can be slippery. Sometimes it looks the way you’d expect anxiety to look. Other times it looks cranky, depressed or frustrated. Remember this and don’t take it personally.

    9. People with anxiety know their anxiety doesn’t always make sense. That’s what makes it so difficult.

    Explaining there’s nothing to worry about or they should “get over it” won’t mean anything – it just won’t – because they already know this. Be understanding, calm and relaxed and above all else, just be there. Anxiety feels flighty and there’s often nothing that feels better than having someone beside you who’s grounded, available and OK to go through this with you without trying to change you.

    10. Don’t try to change them.

    You’ll want to give advice. But don’t. Let them know that to you, they’re absolutely fine the way they are and that you don’t need to change them or fix them. If they ask for your advice then of course, go for it. Otherwise, let them know they are enough. More than enough, actually. Just the way they are.

    11. Don’t confuse their need to control their environment with their need to control you. Sometimes they look the same. They’re not.

    The need to control everything that might go wrong is hard work for anxious people, and it also might make you feel controlled. See it for what it is: the need to feel safe and in control of the possibility of anxiety running the show – not the need to control you. You might get frustrated, and that’s OK; all relationships go through that. Having compassion doesn’t mean you have to go along with everything put in front of you, so talk things out gently (not critically) if you need to.

    And finally …

    12. Know how important you are to them.

    Anyone who sticks around through the hard stuff is a keeper. People with anxiety know this. Nothing sparks a connection more than really getting someone, being there and bringing the fun into the relationship. Be the one who refuses to let anxiety suck the life out of everything. And know you’re a keeper. Yep. You are. Know they’re grateful – so grateful – for everything you do. And they love you back."
  • What Did You Accomplish In Life Today?

    Speaking of moving, The GF and i have officially moved in together!
  • Canadian Federal Election 2015

    This stuff is so funny to me. Liberals gain lead here comes the anti lib talk from NDP. I can't wait for this to be over. I really dislike this slander format that these parties go with. Tell me in a blurb the good you want to do.
    I've found the Liberals are doing the least slander this election, and more constructive criticism. The NDP shift to attacking the Liberals is funny though.
    I can't wait till it's over as well. I'm getting sick of hearing the ads on the radio with parties attacking another..Mostly Conservative attacking other parties.

    I voted this morning.. Actually i walked the street over, because my voting was at a local arena, and i live a street away from it!